Dear Heartbroken,
I’m here for the everyone in the middle of a heartbreak due to gaslighting and lovebombing.
It seems there has been a recent epidemic.
Until my thirties I didn’t realize the woman who stays with the cheater and the woman who is the crazy-ex are both the same woman on different sides of the dick.
Gaslighting with private lovebombing? SIGN ME UP!
I get lovebombed, hard. I fall for it because it’s so fantastical of an idea. Me? I have a flashing neon sign over my head with a knowing giant blinking arrow.
I believe their lies every time because they are really good at it.
Sorry, dolls, ‘You are my everything. I can’t live a life without you in it. I’ll be there every time no matter what.” The letters, the art, the songs, the stories, the trips, the flowers, the diamonds — that’s just them, reflecting how genuinely awesome they are, to themselves.
They don’t mean that about you. It’s a reflection.
This leads to what? Marriage with this person you doubt for good reason but stay with for the lies that make you feel so good? I did it for years of a marriage and a few subsequent boyfriends, so… dare I say, I have past experience.
Here’s a list of things you can do right now to help if this is fresh and new and you are crying today. If you have a friend who is in a fresh new bad thing, send this to them as well!
Imagine them drinking out of a hamster water bottle.
You’ve just said, “GIF” and they are raising a finger to correct you.
Imagine them raising their voice an octave higher while on the phone and an octave lower when talking to a bartender.
Imagine them throwing a tantrum when their mom walks into the room.
Imagine their face turning red when they’re trying to poop but can’t and they are tired and mad.
Imagine catching them looking at themselves in the mirror while sucking their thumb.
Imagine them insisting on showing your parents their ability to backflip.
Imagine they accidentally used self-tanner moisturizer for masturbating.
THAT MAN IS NOT GONNA SEE GOD HE WAS LYING THE WHOLE TIME.
Okay?
Kelly xoxo
"The letters, the art, the songs, the stories, the trips, the flowers, the diamonds — that’s just them, reflecting how genuinely awesome they are, to themselves."
Oof. That landed harder than I expected.
And also as a hot, badass woman, its hard to see through lovebombing because its like....right. this tracks. I am awesome and I deserve this.