My best friend is living a double life and I want to expose her to her husband.
Put it down and step away from it like an explosive. No. She is your best friend. This is about you and your feelings. You clearly do not agree with her decisions and you should let her know. Get out or talk to her but do not ruin her life, that isn’t your place. Here’s what you can do in the meantime, play Justin Timberlake’s CRY ME A RIVER whenever she’s around.
Want to approach a guy at the gym, but I'm scared he’ll be uninterested or taken.
I feel like you are looking for a pep talk, but here’s the question you actually need to ask yourself: are you done with fantasizing yet? If you want this fantasy about him to live on intact, then definitely do not talk to him. Let it drag on, fantasies are nice.
If you’ve already run out of fantasies for him then, yes, it’s time to talk. Don’t force it, let it naturally happen. Run into him at the water station, “Hydrating? Sexy.” Smile at him on the treadmill. Lift a ton of weights and wink at him. Who cares if he’s taken or uninterested, he’s just a hot fantasy, and there are a million men to ogle and another gym down the street with a cute guy in it. Shoot your shot.
Spiders in my house and now my dreams.
In dreams, a spider represents “subconscious anxiety about feeling vulnerable and out of control of some aspect in your life.” - GOOGLE
This is too vague for me. Aren’t we all anxious and feeling out of control about things? Aren’t we all seeking some sort of validation that everything is okay and on the right track? Aren’t we all just looking for spiders to tell us we should burn our house down and start over again?
So yeah. Burn your house down. Start over. You may as well.
It’s Thursday and my baby hasn’t shit since Saturday.
This happens. Carry around several outfit changes with you. Tons of wipes and cleaners. Maybe don’t leave the house. If the baby is on solid food give them some dates or apricots and wait for their ass to just explode. There are no good solutions here because really we are trying for shit here. WE ARE HOPING FOR SHIT. Man, parenting is a blessing.
I feel like I’m not attractive and I have an attractive partner.
Good for you. No one cares. Seriously. You are the only person who cares. Stop. You are torturing yourself for no reason at all and it’s unfair to you and it’s unfair to your partner, but mostly you- so stop.
I’m staying in an unfulfilling relationship for the cats.
Get your own cat. Break up. It’s time.
You rule. You give solid, actionable, in-touch advice, like this gem: “…here’s the question you actually need to ask yourself: are you done with fantasizing yet? If you want this fantasy about him to live on intact, then definitely do not talk to him. Let it drag on, fantasies are nice.”
Kelly, where do we send our requests to analyze issue(s), ISS-yews?