On Golden Knee: Public Marriage Proposals are Traps.
When Becca was twenty-six years old, her boyfriend of three years proposed to her, publicly.
“We’d planned a family picnic at a busy garden. He brought prosciutto, backgammon, a megaphone and proposed to me in front of our moms, ducks, strangers. Anyone really within a mile.”
Becca said she was trapped.
“Our moms were joy-crying. He looked so happy, I didn’t want to cause a scene. I was trapped into saying yes.”
“He was on his knee with a megaphone?”
“Yes.”
THE NIGHT BEFORE (2015) Dir: Jonathan Levine
What kind of a person makes an entire scene out of a proposal?
IT’S A TRAP.
What kind of person invites excited family members to watch their partner answer large questions?
IT’S A TRAP.
I’ve watched four public proposals and not booed, “TRAP!”
Instead, I’m using the internet to do it. Together we can change history.
A CASE FOR SHAMING THE PUBLIC PROPOSAL. HOW MANY BECCAS NEED TO HAPPEN?
Becca and Gregory’s engagement only lasted a few agonizing months.
”When the YES came out of my mouth, I knew it was a NO.”
Becca was mad Gregory had told the family and had them present.
”It felt so manipulative.”
Becca had told Gregory she wanted to get married - at some point.
”I mean, I hadn’t told him flat out I was ready and wanted it. We’d only lived together for under a year. I’d never said, ‘Gee, I’d find it so romantic if you asked to spend the rest of your life with me in front of a hundred people and our families.’
I’m sure there are plenty of people who crave that. It definitely isn’t me, and his inability to foresee how I’d react was the most