GHOST IN THE MACHINE
She: … so he was texting when-he-went-to-sleep-and-woke-up style for two weeks and then stopped this weekend. So, something is up.
Me: Obviously, yes, but no need to speculate and no need to speak so often?
She: But, I want that! I want a man to give me attention and ask me questions.
Me: You want attention around the clock?
She: I can barely look away from my phone and the possible response from him, it’s sickening.
Me: Spend that time learning about the World War that could be brewing.
She: Shut up, I’m talking about a guy ghosting me.
Me: You dumb. I can think of one couple that has been together for five or more years where neither has cheated and they don’t complain about each other at all.
She: See? You know a good couple.
Me: I mean, I’ve never really heard the husband speak, so…
She: Shut up.
Me: Couples also feel lonely when they are with the wrong person. Trust me, I mean, how many of your exes have reached out? Even when they’re in a relationship. Just text this guy who went MIA.
She: Obviously, I have five times. He hasn’t replied..
Me: Okay, so go do your life. It’s been two days, you fucking psycho.
She: Stop laughing.
Me: Right?
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Kelly xo 😘
You of course are right on the money.
You can't hang your identity on someone else.
My fck it rule - I reach out three times and that's my limit. I'll ask three times to get together and after that, they get nothing. They are dead to me. It's a NY thing and it works. Flakes be gone. Yes, It does require spending time alone and that's the price of stable mental health. Nothing comes for free. Either way, you'll pay a mental health cost. It's up to us if the cost is worth the effort.