My fck it rule - I reach out three times and that's my limit. I'll ask three times to get together and after that, they get nothing. They are dead to me. It's a NY thing and it works. Flakes be gone. Yes, It does require spending time alone and that's the price of stable mental health. Nothing comes for free. Either way, you'll pay a mental health cost. It's up to us if the cost is worth the effort.
My fck it rule - I reach out three times and that's my limit. I'll ask three times to get together and after that, they get nothing. They are dead to me. It's a NY thing and it works. Flakes be gone. Yes, It does require spending time alone and that's the price of stable mental health. Nothing comes for free. Either way, you'll pay a mental health cost. It's up to us if the cost is worth the effort.
I’m going through this exact thing. Single again at 37 and dating. I feel insane!
You of course are right on the money.
You can't hang your identity on someone else.