As a fifteen year old, after school, I’d turn to Oprah to learn about the world then The Young And The Restless for updates on how personal dramas can go sideways. This was how I’d unwind. After school my fifteen year old does not return home and slump into the living room couch to watch soap operas and learn from Oprah. She has a phone. My daughter comes home and takes a snack to her room to watch TikToks and dive rabbit holes to unwind.
(I have a rash, too!) Turning 40 was not good. Horribly abusive relationship. But I decided to love myself that decade and it made turning 50 amazing, menopause and all, and I celebrated in Cabo w/ 3 best friends. Turning 60 a few years ago was hard. I realized not all of my older siblings may be around to see me turn 70 or especially 80. Turning 60 is a gift. You don't GAF about anyone or anything. Life is too short. As long as you're a good person, know right from wrong, and love animals. you become who you are truly meant to be. In 6 days I'm 62 and with little to no fanfair, I know for a fact it's not my Mother's 62.
Thank you for this. It was comforting as a woman turning 46 and not understanding what I should feel about my face in the mirror or the extra layer of flab adhering to my mid section for no goddamn reason at all. Aging sucks in a world obsessed with babies.
I love you for this. I’m 40 and in perimenopause. Just met my gyno to discuss the hormone situation because I am all over the place. And I came home to cry it out because everything feels like a lot and also - why do I feel so old when I also feel so young? Nothing makes sense but what you wrote finally f-ing does!
Love the comment about the fact that we look in the mirror and feel unattractive because we sexualize youth. I'm 43 and just started noticing the skin under my arm starting to shake when I wave (or make any other gesture with my arm). It sucks and makes me feel old. But if I'm going to live to 110, then I should start really worrying about this around 85y. That would make more sense.
The Greatest Generation lived through a lot - influenza, WW1, WW2, Great Depression. So I think they looked at aging from a much different perspective than we do today.
47, perimenopausal, boobs be bigger for sure. Also...I keep getting that tingly/burning feeling of milk letting down, like multiple times a day. Anyone else had that experience? This feels like a weird place to ask but also a safe weird space full of weirdos who don't mind weirdo questions
Only big-titted women understand the agony of the underboob rash. I even had a reduction and after the first year perkiness wore off, I'm right back to rash-town. Goodspeed all of you fighting the good fight. ✊
I'm turning 32 and I'm really looking forward to those hormones because right now I feel like I'm in a desert. Always enjoy reading these! Nothing like fanmail in reddit ;)
(I have a rash, too!) Turning 40 was not good. Horribly abusive relationship. But I decided to love myself that decade and it made turning 50 amazing, menopause and all, and I celebrated in Cabo w/ 3 best friends. Turning 60 a few years ago was hard. I realized not all of my older siblings may be around to see me turn 70 or especially 80. Turning 60 is a gift. You don't GAF about anyone or anything. Life is too short. As long as you're a good person, know right from wrong, and love animals. you become who you are truly meant to be. In 6 days I'm 62 and with little to no fanfair, I know for a fact it's not my Mother's 62.
This is so relatable, thank you! :)
From a 46 yr old divorcée who has never been fucking happier in her life!
Thank you for this. It was comforting as a woman turning 46 and not understanding what I should feel about my face in the mirror or the extra layer of flab adhering to my mid section for no goddamn reason at all. Aging sucks in a world obsessed with babies.
I have never related to something more in my life. I’m 51
I love you for this. I’m 40 and in perimenopause. Just met my gyno to discuss the hormone situation because I am all over the place. And I came home to cry it out because everything feels like a lot and also - why do I feel so old when I also feel so young? Nothing makes sense but what you wrote finally f-ing does!
The boob development at age 50 is real! My God, I can't afford to keep myself in bras at this rate.
Love the comment about the fact that we look in the mirror and feel unattractive because we sexualize youth. I'm 43 and just started noticing the skin under my arm starting to shake when I wave (or make any other gesture with my arm). It sucks and makes me feel old. But if I'm going to live to 110, then I should start really worrying about this around 85y. That would make more sense.
Maybe a mid-life crisis is one final child tantrum before easing into adulthood.
Being an adult as a 43 year old woman is my new PCP referring a obgyn that can’t see new patients until March 2024. Thus my panic has begun.
The Greatest Generation lived through a lot - influenza, WW1, WW2, Great Depression. So I think they looked at aging from a much different perspective than we do today.
You can never escape Baba’s giant boobs. (Source: mine became giant in my late 20s and keep getting gianter. I fear greatly for my 40s)
My favorite memory of my tiny little great-baba is hugging her and she was so soft and nice (because of her big soft boobs, natch)
47, perimenopausal, boobs be bigger for sure. Also...I keep getting that tingly/burning feeling of milk letting down, like multiple times a day. Anyone else had that experience? This feels like a weird place to ask but also a safe weird space full of weirdos who don't mind weirdo questions
Only big-titted women understand the agony of the underboob rash. I even had a reduction and after the first year perkiness wore off, I'm right back to rash-town. Goodspeed all of you fighting the good fight. ✊
I'm turning 32 and I'm really looking forward to those hormones because right now I feel like I'm in a desert. Always enjoy reading these! Nothing like fanmail in reddit ;)
God damnit, I love you. Thank you for this. Nothing has ever made more sense.